That might seem an easy decision right? If you’re Sicilian and you believe in “Vendetta”, then the answer is obvious, but which works best for your life path, for your stress level and ultimately, you’re health and longevity? Well, if you look to the Bible, then most would know that Jesus taught us to turn the other cheek, but what if we’re not religious, is the answer the same?
Actually, studies have shown that forgiveness is the right answer and while Jesus may have taught this for spiritual reasons, science proves the theory showing that forgiveness can ease stress, lower blood pressure and ultimately give us a much better chance for a long and fruitful life..
There’s an old expression most will have heard, “Forgive and Forget”. Easy to say, not so easy to accomplish, the question to ask is this, can I forgive someone who has really, really, harmed me. Of course, the ultimate decision is yours, but here’s an example that most would find difficult to trump. Eva Kor is a Holocaust survivor and also a believer in forgiveness if she can forgive the Nazi’s who imprisoned her, who likely did unthinkable acts of evil, cannot we do the same? Should not we do the same?
“My forgiveness … has nothing to do with the perpetrator, has nothing to do with any religion, it is my act of self-healing, self-liberation, and self-mpowerment,” Kor told NPR. “I had no power over my life up to the time that I discovered that I could forgive, and I still do not understand why people think it’s wrong.”
Measure that statement against what someone may have done to you and realize we can all learn something from Eva Kor.
Of course, forgiveness of others is paramount, but we also need to forgive ourselves, none of us are perfect and all of us make mistakes. This isn’t just metaphysical mumbo-jumbo, a study from the Journal of Health showed that those who have a forgiving nature eliminated the link between stress and mental illness. Guys and gals, let go of your anger and forgive, it’s good for you.
When you can forgive, it is a bit like creating a force field around you, a field that shields you from troubles, strife, and illness. We all are on a journey of life and while our life path will likely be different, the vehicle we travel that path with is our mind, body, and soul. Do everything you can to ensure that the vehicle is in good working order. In a sense, forgiveness is like the oil in our car’s engine, allowing it to operate without friction and develop optimum power.
It’s Never To Late To Say You’re Sorry
Some of us have a forgiving nature, others not so much but all of us have the ability to forgive, though it may take a little practice. As you wake each day, quiet your mind and dwell on the thought, even if it’s only for a moment, that today you will forgive those who have transgressed against you. Thenhave stick with that little exercise for a week or so and examine how you feel. You may be surprised by how much better you feel.
Here’s the bottom line, when you retain anger, you increase your stress levels and your body produces cortisol that can have a harmful effect over time, while forgiveness works with your body to produce beneficial effects and mood elevators.
According to John Hopkins Hospital – Mood Disorder Consultations.
Reflect on what happened that has caused you to feel anger. Think about how these thoughts have affected you. This can be a real eye-opening exercise.
Consider the emotions and circumstances fo the one who harmed you. This isn’t excusing their behavior but will allow you to see the event thru their eyes.
When you do forgive, do so unconditionally, not based on whether or not the other person apologized. Remember that no one is perfect and all of us should be using life as a learning experience.
In essence you are clearing your own mind of anger and hurt, whether or not the offending party decides (or doesn’t), to follow suit.
And most of all, forgive yourself. The fact that someone may have wronged you is not a reflection of you, it’s a reflection of them.trump