How To Be Happy In Life
Life is too short to dwell in the shadows, it’s time to walk into the light and, at at least for a bit every day, be happy.
Okay, truth be told, sometimes life is difficult and no matter how positive we are overall, there will be some tough times, that’s simply life. That said, this articles suggests a few ways to help make your mind up to be happy. Here’s how.
I make no claims on being a guru of happiness, I’ve had dark times just as we all do, but for me, there came a time when I realized that life was sliding past me at a rapidly increasing rate and I was missing out and needed to make some changes.
“I found that I had stopped taking pleasure from the little things in life, the love of my dog, a phone call from a friend, the beauty of a sunset, the fact I was making a good living and was doing well in my career. I thought, this isn’t the way I should be acting, I should be happier about my life”
I’d always been someone who enjoyed learning and in business, I’d been taught to follow the advice of those who were already succeeding, and not listen to naysayers. That was good advice in business, but I wondered if the same thing could be true about being happy? Turns out, I wasn’t the first to wonder and that many had walked the same journey, here’s what I learned.
1. Baby Steps. One of the reasons so many begin but never complete their weight loss or fitness goals is they want immediate results, which simply can’t happen. It’s the same with being happy, start making small changes, get plenty of rest, eat right and exercise with moderation.
2. Let go of anger. That’s easy to say, but not always so easy to accomplish, but believe me, it works. Ever heard the expression, “familiarity breeds contempt”? That simply means if you’re around someone too long, you’re going to pick up on little things that annoy you. But what can you do about it? Let them go, don’t dwell on minor annoyances, they aren’t worth your time and venting your anger (telling the person what annoys you) rather than helping can simply stoke the fire.
3. Act happy. Yep, that’s right, if you’re feeling low, put on a happy face and act happy. Yes, I know it sounds crazy, but it works. Feeling angry toward someone? Don’t let your temper rule, instead do something thoughtful and kind and believe it or not, the bad feelings will dissipate and you’ll begin to think, instead, about their positive traits.
4. Don’t be afraid to fail. Everyone fails, that’s part of the journey of life, the bane of life is stagnation. Stimulation is crucial to our mental well-being. Learn something new, do something new, travel to somewhere different. It doesn’t have to be on the other side of the world, it doesn’t have to be an extreme sport, just get off the couch and walk out into life, life is for a living, so live it.
5. Don’t pig out if you’re depressed. It’s easy to think a pint of “Cherry Garcia” will cure the blues, but it won’t, at least not for long and it will leave you feeling guilty. Think of the blues like walking along a path that has both shadows and sunlight, it’s given you’ll walk through some darkness, but keep moving and you’ll get to the sunlight once again. Don’t dwell on the negative, instead think of the positive.
6. Spend money. “Whoa, what do you mean by that? I thought the money couldn’t buy happiness?” You are 100 percent right, but it can sure pave the path of your journey. Now I’m not talking about a gambling spree in Vegas, rather a gift for yourself or a friend. Supporting a worthy cause, Helping someone in need. Supporting a starving artist on Patreon. You make the decision and when you do, you’ll feel happier for having done so.
7. You’ll never achieve perfection. It’s okay to strive for it, but as humans, we’ll usually fall short. That does not mean we can’t give ourselves a pat on the back for the progress we’ve made. Set yourself to a task, it could be a simple as walking a mile a day, or taking a new class, finishing a book, knitting a sweater, it really doesn’t matter what you choose, just finish the project to the best of your ability and smile saying to yourself, “That’s a job well done”.
8. Exercise in moderation is a proven mood elevator, it’s a scientific fact. If you’re feeling down, don’t veg out in front of the TV, get up, get out and breathe. You’ll be surprised how much better you feel after a simple 10-minute walk.
9. Don’t be a nag. If you ask someone, possibly a spouse to do something, ask nicely and don’t nag them. There are better and more effective ways to get your hubby to fix the sink or patch the roof, rather than nag, nag, nag. ‘When you do that, you’re reinforcing the negative and both of your will be happier people, and a happier couple if you dwell on the positive.
10. Take the first step. It’s very easy to procrastinate, but when you take action, wonderful things happen, jobs get done, weight melts off your body, your relationships get better and more fulfilling. Being happy, while tied to our genetics in some areas, is also a product of our deciding to be happy and taking the necessary steps to ensure we’ll reach our goal.
Life is a journey so take the steps to make your journey as fulfilling and happy as possible.